Tuesday, September 22, 2015

The Pursuit of Isness

There are two ways to look at this. There are always two ways to look at everything. If you're indecisive, there might be three ways to look at it, or four or seventeen. But more ways aren't going to help you decide, so there really is no hope for you. And stop interrupting me!

So, there are two ways to look at this. You are here, at this point in life. You are trying to break free and live your life the way you want to. You are tuning in to things you feel are important and giving them the focus they deserve. You are also feeling miserable about turning your back on everything else happening in your life. You feel guilty and you feel scared because if you do screw up, it's all on you. Your screw up and the way it impacts everyone else in your life; it's all... on... you.

Do you feel scared yet? Good. You should. It's better to deal with these things now than to jump in and let the guilt of it all screw up everything you are trying to do.

What did you say? What are the two ways to look at this? I'm getting there. You really need to be more patient.

So yes, there are two ways to look at this. It's all on you. Or it's not.

I know this might be difficult to process. So I'm going to say this slowly. It's... not... all... on... you.

People are responsible for their own lives. They'll figure it out. It's not your burden to bear. It's not your responsibility to sit around and fix everybody's life. You have your own life, and they have no right to make you feel guilty about living it.

But what if... It doesn't matter. Don't swoop in and try to fix everything all the time. Focus on your life and what you need to do. And remember to be nice to yourself. You're stretching yourself out a bit too much and your self-abuse is beginning to show. Your guilt is making you bitter and your misplaced energy is beginning to run out.

You just get this one life. It's never too late. It's never too much. It's never a good idea to make a compromise you live with for the rest of your life. Go out there and do exactly what you want, and as long as you don't wantonly destroy other people's lives, don't apologise for it. Indulge your impulses and revel in them.

Remember when life used to be fun? Yes, I think it's time to bring that back.







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